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Baby Girl or Boy Skinner

Diana writes:

My husband and I are due with our first baby October 15. We are not finding out the sex and have been having a lot of fun with picking out both boy and girl names. We are pretty much decided on the girl name, Jubilee Lynn Skinner. However, the boy name have proven to be quite difficult. Here are some contenders:

Orrin
North
Radnor
Goodwin
Tennessee

As you can see we really like different names. We do not want a first name that is in the top 100, or even top 1000 really. The above list are names that my husband I mostly agree on, however prior to this list I was leaning more towards cowboy/Americana names such as Waylon, Boone, Stetson, etc. I love the idea of a little boy with a rugged name that he will grow into as a man. But my hubby thinks going in this direction is too limiting, which I can kind of agree.

So I am happy with our current compilation, but none really grab me over the others. Except for maybe Tennessee. I really like Tennessee, but I don’t like the idea of having a Tennessee and a Jubilee. I know this may or may not ever come up, but we are planning on having more children. I think the names rhyme too much, but my husband thinks I’m crazy. He has no problem with naming a brother and sister Tennessee and Jubilee. Your thoughts?

Another concern is that we do not want a first name that ends in “er” considering our last name is Skinner. Is Radnor pushing that with a similar sounding ending to “er”?

As for the middle, we would like to use my father’s name, Thomas. An exception to this middle name is Tennessee, I’m not keen on Tennessee Thomas so we would probably go with another middle name if that we our first name choice. But generally, we are thinking ________ Thomas Skinner.

We would love your thoughts and are open to hearing new name suggestions. Please help!

Thank you!

I’m on your side and would say that Jubilee and Tennessee were too rhymey. I think it’s not even the SOUND so much as the way they both end with double-E. Since you’re planning on more children, and since Jubilee is your #1 girl name, let’s take Tennessee off the list for now. If you were to have several boys, and then got to your last child and had another boy, perhaps it will be the perfect name for him.

I suggest the name Washington. It’s a state name like Tennessee; it’s not in the Top 1000; and it’s good with your middle name choice and surname: Washington Thomas Skinner. I think it also has a rugged sound, without being too specific as to the type of ruggedness. It has excellent namesakes (George Washington and George Washington Carver), obvious country-related tie-ins (the capitol and a state and the first president), and is all all-around good name. (Those of us who liked Firefly have the additional positive association with the character Wash, though his name wasn’t Washington.)

Another unusual, not-in-the-Top-1000 possibility is Everest. Everest Thomas Skinner.

To me, Radnor’s ending does sound like the -er you’re trying to avoid with Skinner. Would you like Ransom instead? Ransom Thomas Skinner. Dr. Ransom is the good guy in C.S. Lewis’s Space Trilogy.

Another surname possibility is Redford: Redford Thomas Skinner.

More unusual possibilities for the Skinners?

Baby Boy Yankanich

Julie writes:

My friend turned me on to your website and I am happy to see I can get an educated, thorough, outside opinion on our third child’s name. My husband and I are having a tough time and Baby Boy Number Two is due October 6th.

Our last name is pronounced “Yank-An-Itch” believe it our not. Our children’s names are Erin and Steven Jr. Our third is a boy and while we both agree we would like a name ending in N, we can’t agree on the exact name. I like names like Justin (my number one), Kevin, Mark, and Thomas. My husband has suggested Declan, Kevin (with hesitance), Sullivan, and a million other unusual names.

Can you help? We are open to anything…even names not ending in N or names that are not “Gaelic” like our other two.
Thank you!

I like Brendan: Erin, Steven, and Brendan. They’re all different enough to be distinctive and all of the kids get their own initial, but they go together and have the matching N-endings.

I also like Alan/Allen: it was one of seven finalists for my youngest (it grew on me because on the TV show Arthur, “The Brain”‘s real name is Alan). But I think two brothers named Steven and Allen might bring Steve Allen too readily to mind.

It’s too bad both Aaron and Darren are out: in style, they’d go very well. Eric, too, if it weren’t also almost the same as Erin. And Gavin may sound too much like Steven because of the matching endings, and Evan is way too close to both names. And names like Corbin and Keegan and Lawson and Ruben, while some of my favorite N-ending boy names, don’t seem close enough in style to Erin and Steven.

Owen, maybe? It’s a little wordlike with your surname (oh and yank an itch) but I may be overthinking it.

Nathan! Erin, Steven, and Nathan!

Or Benjamin: Erin, Steven, and Benjamin.

For non-N possibilities, maybe Joshua? Erin, Steven, and Joshua. Or Matthew: Erin, Steven, and Matthew. Or David: Erin, Steven, and David. Are there any good family names, so that each boy is a namesake?

Baby Name to Consider: Rilea

Sarah writes:

My hubby and I have debated the name Rilea (RYE-Leah) Elizabeth as a name for a future daughter. Does this sound like a normal name? Obviously, she could have the ever trendy female “Riley” nickname, but do you think that name is bound to be too become too trendy in the next 10 years? We love the name, but have found many family members/friends wondering why we are “making up” a name. We are both teachers, so this is one of the few names not wrecked (or sweetened) by past students. But, being academics, we are hoping to have a name that could also sound educated without being stuffy. Does the name have too trendy of connotations? Or does the Rilea pronunciation give it (like we hope) an ability for the name to carry into adulthood?

What are your first impressions?

FYI: other kid names are already mostly decided on. We just like to have though this through and “lived” with the names for awhile first before kids come.
Others: BOY: Ethan David; Lincoln James; GIRL: Reese ________ (something biblical to be decided on)

-Sarah– a girl with a common name, married to a guy that has that conversation “Where did you get your name from, can you repeat it again for me” every day.

I have two first impressions:

1. I would have pronounced it ry-LEE-ah on the first attempt.

2. I’d put it in the category Modern Invented Name, with names such as Kiana and Kiera, Brylee and Caleigh.

There’s nothing wrong with multiple possible pronunciations OR with being a modern invented name. My name has been pronounced Kirsten and Kiersten and Kristine, even though I would have thought there was only one sensible way to pronounce the name Kristen, so there are few names that DON’T have to be corrected now and then. And every name has to be a modern invented name at SOME point in its life—and it makes sense to use one when the parents are teachers and more likely than other parents to encounter their child’s name elsewhere…and elsewhere…and elsewhere….

AND, I think that if you LOVE a name, other issues are usually well worth it.

I think if you’re looking for a name that sounds academic, I would recommend Leah instead. It’s more common, yes, and you may have already had students with that name, but I think ROOTS are one of the things that can give a name academic heft. Modern Invented names tend to sound Trendy, because they tend to be formed from sounds and spellings that are currently trendy.

A much less common choice would be Amalia. It sounds similar to Rilea, but has ROOTS. And I’m hoping the “oh, it’s a typo for Amelia” problem will be slightly lessened by a Malia living in the White House.

Or Cecilia: again, similar sound, but more academic.

I’d like to add a third impression of Rilea:

3. I spelled it differently every time I typed it in this post, and had to keep scrolling to the top to remind myself. I spelled it Rylia, then corrected it to Rylea, then corrected briefly to Rilia, then corrected to Rilea.

But of course all my impressions come from my own experiences with children and my own tastes in baby names and my own region of the country, so what we need is a much wider set of responses. Comments section, do your stuff!

Baby Girl Johnson, Sister to Gabriel Lane

D. writes:

I am due with my second child on October 4th. We are having a girl who will be sister to Gabriel Lane. We have narrowed the list down to a few names and but are stuck now. We like unisex names, even if more masculine, as well as cute boyish nicknames from longer, feminine names. The middle name will be Ruth, after a deceased grandmother, or Brucie, after a deceased uncle. I know Bruce is an odd name but due to a large family here is not so uncommon for a girl so I feel ok with it as a middle name depending on first name choice. Here are our finalists:

Josephine (nn Joey or Josey)
Micah (Some people say this is ok as a girls name and know only girl Micahs, but others say no way, only boy)
Charlotte (nn Charlie-only reservation is it is very popular right now)
Sylvie (name from deceased grandmother Sylvia)

Thanks for the help! We are agonzing over this. I am open to new suggestions as well.

My favorite is Josephine: it gives you the cute boyish nicknames for a long feminine name, and I think it’s cute with your surname and good with the middle name Ruth. Josephine Ruth Johnson is an excellent name.

My second favorite—nearly tied for first—is Sylvie. Sylvie Ruth Johnson is also an excellent name.

I don’t even feel inclined to add more suggestions, with such good names already on your list.

Baby Girl Olson

Natalie writes:

Please help me! We are expecting our first baby, a little girl, October 1st, 2010. Naming her has been a major part of my life for the past 36 weeks. I am a self proclaimed name nerd. I have known just about every name under the sun, as well as their meanings and origins, since I was 10. Names are a giant passion of mine. This makes naming my first child a great excitement, as well as a HUGE burden. I have a very defined name style, which in my opinion is pretty much summed up by three words (although others may not completely agree): Edgy, Sophisticated, and Glamorous.

Our first choice for a name for our baby has been Sophia Natalia Olson. Sophia after my great-grandmother (and the gorgeous Sophia Loren), and Natalia is my favorite version of my name, Natalie (I don’t want to use Natalie, though). DH and I really like this name, but I’m starting to have second thoughts. While Sophia is sophisticated and glamorous, it is not edgy… in fact it is losing it’s luster a little considering how common it has become. Or am I imagining this? I also think it’s important to have back up names in case she doesn’t look like Sophia when she is born. Don’t get me wrong, I still really like this name….

Other names we like are (we would use either Natalia or Sophia for a middle name):

Eva – pronounced EY-va, we really don’t like EE-va. This is also sophisticated but very common, and not very edgy.

Eve – a little more edgy, but not very glamorous. I adore the nickname Evie. Unfortunately, when Eve is said with Olson it sounds like “evil son”

Zoa – I think I like this a lot, but I’m not sold on it. I normally really dislike Zoe because it seems too “out there” for my taste, but Zoa seems a little classier and cooler.

Elle – I really like this, but it sounds odd with Olson. Due to a family feud, I can’t use Ella, and I can’t stand the thought of people calling her Ellie, but I love Elle.

Shiloh – I think this is adorable for a girl. Unfortunately, I got ahead of myself and named our male dog this two years ago. Plus, my sister-in-law claimed it for her daughter someday despite it being our dogs name.

Noa – I love how fresh this name is. It has been the Number 1 girl name in Israel for a long time. Don’t confuse it with the boy name Noah, they are two completely different names with different origins and meanings. Too bad she would be confused for a boy her whole life in America :(

Arabella – I was set on naming her this a few months ago, but I quickly grew tired of how frilly it sounds. Plus Bella is super common again.

I really appreciate your expertise and advice. I need all the help I can get, plus I’m running out of time!!

Normally I think changing a spelling doesn’t help much to make a name fresh (Madysyn, for example, is if anything LESS fresh than Madison), but there are respellings and then there are alternate spellings, and in the case of Sophia I think the alternate spelling Sofia puts edge back into it—mostly because of Sofia Coppola. A downside is that it is then no longer your great-grandmother’s spelling.

The name Eva—are you saying you’d like people to pronounce it the same as Ava? I think it would be possible, but extremely wearying: either people will say it EE-va or they will spell it Ava, and there will be a steady stream of new people to explain it to. Especially since you actively dislike the usual pronunciation EE-va, I suggest using the usual spelling Ava, or else taking this one off the list.

Another I’d take off the list is Elle: it has a family feud closely associated with it, and it would be hard to avoid the nickname Ellie: even if you talked everyone else out of using it, she might choose to use it herself.

If you like Evie but feel reluctant to use Eve, I suggest Genevieve with the nickname Evie.

So! Hm, is it “helpful” per se to have me shooting down one option after another?

I’d say the best candidate from your list is your first choice, and I’d be torn about which spelling to use: Sofia seems like much more what you’re looking for, but I’m super-hesitant to lose the family spelling. Since it’s a great-grandmother, I think I would change the spelling: Sofia Natalia Olson looks and sounds wonderful to me.

Second choice: Genevieve Natalia Olson, with the nickname Evie.

For more options, I think I would look for names of glamorous actresses from the 1930s, 1940s, and 1950s:

Audrey
Brigitte
Clara
Grace
Greta
Jayne
Jean
Joan
Lana
Lillian
Lucille
Veronica
Vivian

Or you could use Harlow, which evokes Jean Harlow while giving you the sound of Shiloh. Downside: Harlow Olson might be hard to say (I mean that it is for me, but I’m not sure if others would have the same trouble).

Harlow makes me think or Marlowe/Marlo, but that might have the same pronunciation problem as Harlow.

Or Lydia? Lydia Natalia Olson.

Or Lena, or Lila.

Or Stella: Stella Natalia Olson.

Ooo, or Nora! Nora Sophia Olson.

Baby Girl Bruna, Sister to Charlotte Sunny Louise

Louise writes:

We are expecting our second daughter on October 1st and are getting to the final stages of trying to name her! We have decided to continue a few trends we began with our first, who is Charlotte Sunny Louise. She goes only by Sunny. We wanted her to have a ‘sensible’ first name to fall back on if she found Sunny too silly/childish/ridiculous later on in life. For now, Sunny suits her to a tee. It suits us too as Charlotte is so popular. Her second name is my name. For our next child we would also like to give two middle names (a family tradition), one being a more unusual name that we would use as a nickname. At the moment we have Ava Scout _______. I know Ava is super popular, but we both like it (a feat in itself) and we would call our little girl ‘Scout’ anyway.

I would describe my style as a mixture of vintage, hippy and literature derived names. Names like:
Violet
Evangeline
Bellamy
Tallulah
Juniper
Indigo
Madeleine
Audrey (a family name)
Jolie
Valentine

My dear husband Jacob is a little more traditional and likes Ashley, Abigail, Laura and Eleanor. He would name our child ‘Laura Ashley” if given half the chance!

I suppose what I am hoping for is suggestions for the second middle name and even possibly suggestions of the first name (instead of Ava) as I’m still not 100% on it. Our last name is a but tricky to work with due to its strong ‘ooo’ sound and ‘ah’ ending which unfortunately has put me right off Tallulah and Juniper. With the two shorter first names I think a three syllable second middle name sounds best to my ear. I’m not a huge fan of alliteration in names which has deterred me from using a second middle name which begins with an S or B sound or that uses V (because of the V already in Ava).

As you can see, I am over-thinking things and I would absolutely love a fresh perspective! Any help or suggestions you could offer would be greatly appreciated!

Since your first girl’s second middle name is a family name, perhaps you could continue that as well. Are there any good girl names on either side of the family tree? Grandmothers, aunts? Or you could give all the girls your name as the second middle name. Normally I think baby name enthusiasts recoil at the idea of duplicating names, since it means fewer fun choices to make—but in this case, where she’ll have two middle names, it seems like a shared second middle name is itself a fun choice.

If not, your husband’s choice Eleanor would be nice there: Ava Scout Eleanor.

If you want something very similar to Ava but less popular, there’s Eva. Eva Scout Eleanor. But other parents are also noticing the Ava/Eva thing, so Eva may soon be just as common. And Eva Bruna may be too close to Eva Braun. Ada, Ida?

For something completely different than Ava: Josephine. I like that name so much with Charlotte, and with Bruna. Josephine Scout Louise Bruna.

It sounds like the Scout part is decided on, but if not, here are a few more possibilities: Birdy, Daisy, Dolly, Pippa, Poppy, Romy, Tilly. Josephine Poppy Louise Bruna?

Name update! Louise writes:

Just letting you know that our little girl finally decided to show her pretty face on October 10th! We named her Ava Scout Evangeline and have already started calling her Scout, which seems to suit her well. Thank you so much for your input, we loved hearing your insights and getting feedback from other readers. Keep up the great work!

Baby Girl M., Sister to Clayborne

Josie writes:

I am due October 1st with a girl. We already have a son, Clay. Our last name begins with M and is common enough that we don’t have to worry about anything clashing with it. however, we would like to avoid names that begin w C, K or M. (We’re not fans of alliteration. clay and chloe. clay and kristen. Meredith M_______.) The middle name will most likely be Brooks (family name.) so we want a first name that is more than one syllable.
However, my husband and I have completely different ideas about what the name should be. He likes very popular names (Abigail, Charlotte, Sophia, etc.) I really don’t want a name that is too popular or too common. I like unisex names that still can be girly. There are only a few names that are on the “possible” list and we’re not sure if we love any of them.

Avery (too popular?)
Lainey (nickname but we can’t figure out what the “official” name would be)
Hadley
Harper (but way too popular)
Quinn (but only one syllable)
Skyler

Help!
Thanks!

If Harper is way too popular at #174, then yes, Avery is too popular: Avery is #32. And Skyler might be too popular for you, too: that spelling is at #419, but the spelling Skylar is #185; if we combine the 755 girls named Skyler in 2009 with the 1,749 girls named Skylar in 2009, the rank of the two names together is #129—also more popular than Harper. (Source: Social Security Administration.)

I love Lainey. I would use Elaine as the full name, but Delaney is another possibility. Or plain Laine, if you changed your mind about Brooks. Or Helene or Helena (though it will sometimes be pronounced heh-LEEN/heh-LEEN-ah, so it depends on your tolerance for gentle correcting). The sounds of cLAY and LAIney are very similar; I’m not sure if it’s too similar or if it ties the names together perfectly.

More possibilities (taken largely from the “Last Names First” section of The Baby Name Wizard):

Brinley
Ellison
Elodie
Emery
Everly
Flannery
Garland
Jensen
Landry
Larkin
Lorelei
Thalia
Waverly
Yeardley

Baby Name to Consider: Brynter

It’s been so long since we’ve done a Name to Consider post, you may have forgotten we’ve ever done one. Previous posts include Brando, Schroeder, and Abelson. Remember that the point of a “name to consider” is not so much “Do I personally like the name and would I personally use it?” (though of course that’s always an interesting issue), but rather, “Does this seem like A NAME? Can I picture SOMEONE—perhaps someone in search of a more unusual style than I myself would consider—using this for a baby?”

Names to Consider are names I FEEL as if I made up out of my own head—but I assume that if I”m “making up” a name, that means many, many others have already made up the same name (see also The Baby Name Wizard‘s section on the name Keaton, pages 3-4 in the second edition).

Today’s candidate I thought of because of a misunderstanding: my mom was talking about a doll she referred to as Miss Winter, and I thought she said Brynter. My immediately reaction was positive: it combines Bryn (which can seem too short) with Winter (which can seem too nouny). It has the popular occupational sound.

I think it could work. What do you think?

Baby Naming Issue: Evelyn, and How to Tell if a Name Will Get Popular

Kate writes:

I am due with a baby at the end of September. My question is a little different since I think my husband and I have settled on names. (We don’t know the sex of the baby so we have a boy and girl name picked.) I am curious if you have any thoughts or insight on “up and coming” baby names. You know the ones – they are out of the top 100 for years and then suddenly from no where start making huge jumps in popularity. The reason I’m asking is that we’ve basically decided on Evelyn if our baby is a girl. I love this name and loved that it was familiar but not common. Well, when looking at the past few years it’s really jumped up the list! The social security website shows that it is #39 in popularity, but less than 1% of the total babies born. So how “popular” does it really make that name? Do you think a name that is trending up in popularity, like Evelyn, will likely make it to the top ten? Like I said, this isn’t your typical question, but I thought it was something interesting to talk about. I’m sure this is something you’ve thought about, and I’d be interested in hearing your take on it.

I think there are some things to watch for:

1. The first is the most obvious: big leaps on the chart. Like, not just a steady increase in popularity (#100, then #95, then #90) but from not even on the chart to #800, then the next year to #400, then the next year to #200. FAST increases mean that most people don’t know yet that the name is rising. I think of the name Isabella as the classic example:


It wasn’t even in the Top 1000 from 1949 until 1990, and THEN look at it go! (Information and screen shot from the Social Security Administration.) We have friends who named their daughter Isabella in 2001, thinking it was a highly unusual choice—because in 2001, only hospital/daycare workers and SSA site fans knew how common it was.

2. Feeling like the name is a discovery. If the name feels like a dusty treasure, other people are probably feeling the same way. This happens especially with names that have been out of style for awhile—but WERE in style before: Henry, Oliver, Emma.

3. A smack of freshness. If the name has the feeling of surprise—but PLEASANT surprise—it’s feeling that way to a lot of other people too. This happens especially with names that haven’t been in style before, or have been in style for the other sex: Avery, Emerson, Cadence, Juniper, Braden.

4. A pleasing tie-in. I’ve mentioned before how people credit Charlotte’s Web for their choice of Charlotte for a baby girl—but my guess is that most people thought of the name first and the tie-in second (otherwise I’d expect to see Fern and Wilbur likewise increasing in popularity). The tie-in is what pushed them from “What a great name!” to “Let’s use it!” This is also what makes great-grandparent names appealing: the name is already coming back into style, and so it catches people’s attention when they see in their family trees (and, as with Charlotte’s Web, the names in the family tree that are NOT yet coming back into style go unnoticed).

Numbers 2 and 3 are very similar and have some overlap. One reason I separate them is that I think it’s far safer to use dusty treasures than to use fresh smacks: if you were to use the name Henry and then it got to the top ten, it almost wouldn’t matter because the name Henry has come and gone many times and is always a sturdy choice even if it’s not in fashion. Whereas if you choose Madison or Caden, it could be a different story depending on what the name does in the future. This is the difference between a name that “gets popular” and a name that “gets trendy.”

I SUSPECT that the reason Evelyn is coming into style is all the parents looking for alternatives to Ava and Eva and Ella and Emma, combined with Evelyn having a rhythm that happens to match other favorites Isabelle, Abigail, Emily, Madison, and so on. BUT, The Baby Name Wizard has talked extensively about “the 100-year cycle” (which is why great-grandparent names like Emma and Henry are so appealing while parent names like Barbara and Jerry aren’t—until our grandchildren are choosing baby names), and although Evelyn has never gone totally out of style, it was last in the top ten in 1915. It’s Evelyn’s time again.

Considering Evelyn’s enduring popularity (it hasn’t even slipped out of the 200s since 1915), combined with it getting toward its 100-year mark, combined with what we can see it doing on the charts (not leaps, no, but a pretty fast upward climb after 50 years of not even being in the top 100)—I wouldn’t be surprised to see it in the top ten soon.

On the other hand, I also wouldn’t be surprised to NOT see it in the top ten. Because plenty of names go up, up, up—and then stop: maybe in the 40s, maybe in the 20s, but never getting to the top ten. The names find their exact balance of being popular enough to be familiar and well-liked by the general population, but not so popular to discourage people from using it.

In any case, I feel about Evelyn the way I do about the name Henry: if it DOES go top ten, you’ll still have made a solid choice, not a trendy one.

Now, as to how popular a #39 name really is. If a name were evenly distributed across the entire United States, this would be pretty easy to figure out. At #39, the name Evelyn was given to approximately .28% of all baby girls, which means there are approximately 28 Evelyns per 10,000 girls born in that year. If a classroom has 30 children in it, and half are girls, there will be approximately 1 girl named Evelyn per 24 classrooms. Well, goodness, that’s not bad at all! That’s positively RARE. And yet, doing that same math tells us there’s only 1 Isabella per 6-7 classrooms, and GOODNESS it feels more popular than that—not only because of all the Isabelles and Isabels we’ve failed to take into account, but also because of regional popularity differences: if some regions barely use the name at all for whatever reason, this makes for many more Isabellas in the other areas. And it’ll be the same with Evelyns.

One of my sons has a name that was approximately as popular as the name Evelyn, the year he was born. But if I’d consulted the by state information, I would have seen it was in the top ten in our state. Evelyn is #100 in New Mexico, #98 in South Carolina, #96 in Rhode Island, #89 in Connecticut, #88 in South Dakota, #86 in Oklahoma, #83 in Florida, #81 in Pennsylvania—but #27 in Texas, #25 in California and Oregon, #24 in Illinois and Vermont, #23 in Colorado, #21 in Minnesota in Washington, #20 in D.C., #18 in Wisconsin. And in Hawaii, Louisiana, Mississippi, New Jersey, and West Virginia, it’s not even in the top 100. So of course it depends too on where you live—and where you might move, and where SHE might move as an adult! (Do you feel like running screaming into the sea yet?)

There can also be odd little quirks: the name Noah was #24 in 1999 (approximately .73%) when my first son was born, which SHOULD mean there’d be about one Noah per 9 classrooms. And yet TWO school years, he’s had two Noahs in his class, and I think only one school year had no Noahs. It’s the SAME Noahs: the statistics show a nice even distribution, but it happens that there are two Noahs in his grade instead of the expected less-than-one Noah, and it happens he’s been put into a classroom with one or both of them almost every year. The same could happen with Evelyns.

Er, I seem to have gotten a little carried away, but you’ve brought up one of my totally favorite subjects, and one I never get tired of talking about because there IS no way to predict these things, and isn’t that WEIRD that there isn’t??

Baby Girl Will-hell-mee

Lindsay writes:

This has been such a headache, and I have been browsing your archives for inspiration, thinking I’d see something that would tickle my fancy. But since we’re having such a rough time thinking up and narrowing down names for our baby girl, I thought it best just to write and get your/your readers’ advice and suggestions!

Our last name is (phonetically) Will-HELL-mee. Our first child – a baby girl – is due in late September / early October, and our finalist names are currently: Sophie, Jamison (“Jamie”), Rowan, Nola, and Riley. Sophie (my parnter’s grandma’s name) is the current front-runner, but we want some others in our back pocket, and also are concerned that Sophie might be a little too “girly.” Our possible middle names include Ellen (my grandma’s name), Nelle (Ellen backwards), Kate, and Nola (it’s both a first name and middle name finalist).

We definitely like gender-neutral names, and tend towards the classic as opposed to the trendy. Celtic/Gaelic names are always welcome for consideration, but we don’t like spellings that are too outlandish or impossible to pronounce (like Siobhan or Roisin). We tend to prefer names under three syllables, but if it’s a really good one, it can be considered (which is why Jamison is still hanging by a thread on our list).

We’ve rejected many “-yn” names (think Jadyn, Kalyn, Kamryn, etc.). Other names that one or both of us liked but ultimately rejected include: Sadie, Carlie, Avery, Madison (“Maddy”), Grace, Charlotte (“Charlie”), Josie, Tegan, Ryan, Posey, Presley, Maisie, and Mina.

Thanks so much for any help you can provide! We really like Sophie, but want to decide on some alternatives we like just as much to have in our back pocket when our little girl arrives!