Amie writes:
We are expecting our 3rd (and last) boy the beginning of May. My husband has 3 names he likes and rejects everything else I suggest, his reasons being they remind him of something negative. ( sounds like a person on the FBI most wanted, or a person he once knew ) I am out of ideas and I think I may just name him myself, although I would like my husband to like the name.
My name is Amie and my husband is Rob, our last name is 10 letters and sounds like Guyswhite. Our boys are Landon Martin (mn after my dad) and Nolan Henry. (mn after my father in law and my G-grandfather)
I like names that are not really popular or trendy and don’t want to use a nickname. I am even open to something a little different as long it will go with my boys names.
We have never had a list of girl names. Some of the names we liked with the first two and rejected.
Bennett
Garrett
William
Griffin
Elliot
Brennan (my cousin’s name)
Beckett (My favorite name with Nolan, it was between these two until after he was born )
Names I have suggested this time,
Benson (my first choice, husbands has co worker with this name and he dislikes it)
Duncan (I have this at the top of my list, my husband says it reminds him of Dunkin Donuts)
Holden (bottom of my list)
Vaughn (will this sound like part of our surname?)
Declan (husband dislikes)
Corben
Carney (my mom’s maiden name, if I had a girl I would have used my mom’s middle name Marie)
Davis (only name we agree on)
Colman (husband says like the camping lantern)
Dalton (feels western)
Van (this has been my dad’s suggestion for each of the boys, is this too short?)
Marshall (this is the name my boys want to name their brother, not my favorite)
Names that are unusable/popular, Owen, Ethan, Colin, Conner, Colton,
My husbands list, (he likes more common names that he has heard before)
Gavin (I don’t like this with our last name)
Carson (it is getting popular here, 2 at school right now)
Davis (only name we agree on)
The middle names being considered,
Patrick (both grandmother’s and my middle name)
Carney (mom’s middle name)
James (my dad, already used his mn for Landon)
Another middle name we could use is my grandfather’s name, Gerard Stephen (my mom’s dad, only person named for him is my uncle who is a junior) All the other family names from that side are not really my style, Reginald, Francis (maybe, my G-grandmother was Frances) James and Raymond.
I know we seem to be stuck in the “en” names, but are open to anything. We are really hoping to find a name that feels as good as our boys names, strong, likeable and flow well with our last name.
I hope you and your readers can give us some help.
The first thing I noticed is that the name Nolan contains five of the six letters of Landon, and both names contain -lan-. For a third boy, then, I would be torn between wanting to keep some letters in common for his name as well, and wanting to bring in completely different sounds to avoid confusion. When I considered the name Holden, though, which is more along the lines of the former way (the O, the L, the D, the N), I realized I’d be more inclined to the latter plan: Landon, Nolan, and Holden makes me start scrambling up the names and also forgetting who’s who.
Davis seems like an excellent choice to me. It ties in with the other two names (D-sound as in Landon; five letters as in Nolan; two syllables as in both Landon and Nolan) without adding a third matched ending or too many matching sounds—and it sounds like it’s no small thing that it’s a name the two of you agree on. I find it extremely fun to think of his brothers choosing his name, so if you don’t actively dislike the name Marshall, I think Davis Marshall Guyswhite is a wonderful name and a great whole-family effort. If you’d rather stick with a family middle name, I would definitely lean toward Patrick or Carney or Gerard (or Stephen, but I’m less fond of the way Davis Stephen blends together), since one of your dad’s names has already been used.
Davis also reminds me of Harris, but if he ever went by Harry I wonder if it sounds like “Hairy guys” with your surname.
I would also want to reconsider Beckett, since it was so close to being chosen last time. Beckett Patrick feels a little too crackling with all those -ck- and -t- sounds, and Beckett Carney feels a little too unusual, but Beckett James Guyswhite seems perfect—except it does still bother me to honor the same person a second time, so I think my top choice would be Beckett Stephen, or maybe Beckett Gerard.
Would your husband like Benton any better than Benson? Benton Guyswhite; Landon, Nolan, and Benton. This combination does match the endings, but I think that if that’s the ending you tend to be drawn to, there’s something to be said for GOING for it. And the endings feel more like -don, -lan, and -ton than like -on, -an, and -on, anyway. My favorite would be Benton Marshall, but I also like Benton Patrick and Benton Gerard.
Vaughn and Van do always sound like part of the surname to me, but I think that’s because I’ve never known a Vaughn or Van. If I did know one, I suspect that issue would soon vanish. Still, I might be more inclined to use Vince or Vance: I haven’t known anyone with those names, either, and yet they feel more first-name-like.
Van seems a little short to me, not so much because of the number of letters but because of a combination of that issue with two other issues: the way it can sound like part of a surname, and the way it can look/sound like a type of vehicle and/or a short form of the word minivan. Something about all those things combined make it seem like part of a name, or a nickname for another name, or an abbreviation, or a startling noun name (“Car”). Again, I think this could be entirely because I haven’t known anyone named Van: it shouldn’t be much different than Dan or Jan.
Looking at your husband’s list, the name Gavin makes me think of these possibilities to consider (a few of which contain Van, if that increases their appeal):
Brogan Guyswhite; Landon, Nolan, and Brogan (probably too similar)
Calvin Guyswhite; Landon, Nolan, and Calvin
Darwin Guyswhite; Landon, Nolan, and Darwin
Devan Guyswhite; Landon, Nolan, and Devan
Donovan Guyswhite; Landon, Nolan, and Donovan
Keegan Guyswhite; Landon, Nolan, and Keegan
Sullivan Guyswhite; Landon, Nolan, and Sullivan
Vance Guyswhite; Landon, Nolan, and Vance
The name Carson makes me think of these possibilities:
Anderson Guyswhite; Landon, Nolan, and Anderson
Bryson Guyswhite; Landon, Nolan, and Bryson
Carter Guyswhite; Landon, Nolan, and Carter
Cason Guyswhite; Landon, Nolan, and Cason
Coleson Guyswhite; Landon, Nolan, and Coleson (maybe too similar)
Hudson Guyswhite; Landon, Nolan, and Hudson
Jameson Guyswhite; Landon, Nolan, and Jameson (incorporates James)
Lawson Guyswhite; Landon, Nolan, and Lawson (probably too similar)
Weston Guyswhite; Landon, Nolan, and Weston
Wilson Guyswhite; Landon, Nolan, and Wilson
I’d suggest Greyson and Garrison, because I thought of them with both Gavin and Carson, but I suspect they have the same issue as Gavin Guyswhite.
Name update! Amie writes:
Just wanted to update everyone on the birth of our baby boy. We sure appreciated all the wonderful suggestions we received. We had narrowed the list down to 2 names,the one we both agreed on was Davis and the other was Walker. Davis Gerard was born on May 8th. weighing 7 lbs 10oz.