I had my first OB appointment this morning. It was an “intake” appointment: I just saw the nurse and updated my family history, got my free tote bag and my lab paperwork and my sheet of which medications are approved to take during pregnancy and which aren’t (“DO take your prenatal vitamins! DON’T take crack!”).

Every time I’ve gone to the intake appointment before, they’ve asked if the pregnancy was planned, and I’d been debating what to say this time. Just “unplanned” and leave it at that? How should I do my tone of voice so that they don’t ask me any unpleasant questions? Luckily, the nurse didn’t ask this time. I suppose they assume that once you have four children, a pregnancy is either planned or you’re too dim to figure out how it keeps happening.